Forgive For The Sake Of Your Heart

I don't know about you, but forgiveness is kind of an interesting topic. Have you ever been angry with somebody who hurt you; who disappointed you, who let you down?

And you just couldn't ever forgive that person because 'I can't forgive him. He hurt me and I, I'm just not gonna... it's just too much, too much!'

So the problem with that is that when we hold on to anger, it stresses our body out. I'm not talking about just being angry about something that in 10 minutes or half an hour or half a day is gone. I'm talking about real hurt and pain! 

That kind of stress on our body affects our blood pressure, our heart, our whole cardiovascular system, as well as our immune function and much more.

There's a price to pay for being angry and not being able to let it go!

The problem with carrying around anger is that it takes a huge toll on us. It requires a lot of energy to keep feeding it, to keep it alive. And it colors how we connect with our friends, how we connect with people we don't even know. How we connect with the world and, mostly, how we connect with ourselves. 

How do we forgive when we certainly don't feel like the person in front of us deserves forgiveness?

It's kind of interesting, because in many ways, it is not about the person in front of you. It's about your conscious decision to release resentment and anger so that you can carry on with your life. 

Now, this is not about forgetting about what happened. It's not about condoning what happened. It's not about any of that.

This person, whatever they've done, there's going to be a price for them, for what they've done. Who knows what that is. Who knows when that'll happen. It's going to impact them in many ways, but it doesn't have to impact you any more.

I think the last thing that I want to say here, is that the most difficult person to forgive is usually ourselves.

I know for me that's true because in order for me to forgive myself, I have to admit and accept that I've made a mistake, or that I had a misjudgment, or that I just wasn't thinking. Whatever it may be.

And if I can be kind and gentle, and acknowledge, yes, I made a mistake. I'm a human being. That's the worst of it.

You're a human being. We're not perfect. Just release it and you can feel lighter. 

Forgiveness is about you releasing the burden of carrying the anger and hurt that you have. Once you do that, you'll feel lighter and you'll feel happier!

You'll have more energy to create the life you want, and your heart will be happier.

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Thank you so much for listening.

Dr. Elaine.

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This information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to replace the medical advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Please consult your healthcare provider for advice about a specific medical condition.