Release the 'crap' to find yourself!

One of the most important gifts of aging is that we truly have an opportunity to understand, to know, and become who we really are. So what does that mean?

I know for most of my life, I haven't really known who I am, because I've covered over my true self with fear, anger, and many ideas about life that don't serve me.

One of the biggest ones was "I'm not enough". I'm not okay with who I am. I need to be something else. I need to be somebody else. And what I have found, now that I've lived a certain amount of life experience, is that we can only be who we are.

The joy, and the job, is really to uncover all of the layers of - dare I say crap - that we have covered ourselves over with. To really understand who we are and to truly let our light shine.

I'm going to read a quote from Ernest Holmes that says "We need not move away from ourselves to discover ourselves. What we do is uncover and reveal that which is already concealed at the center of our being."

As we get older, we start to think about all the things that don't serve us anymore, like being afraid to show ourselves to the world, being afraid to show our kooky personality, or our sense of humor, or what we believe or what we think.

This is especially true for women. We always have an idea (and I don't want to include everybody in this), but I have had, and many of the people that I know have had, this idea that we are not loved. We are not lovable. We are not enough. We have be thinner. We have to be smarter. We have to be more quiet.

These are all things that are not truly us. And I believe you have to live a certain amount of life, have a certain amount of years behind you in order to mature in your thinking and in your reflections and in your beliefs.

What I really also understand now is that it requires a lot of energy to 'cover over' who you really are (to 'cover over' your authentic self).

I would suggest that we start to release these things. Old hurts, old arguments, old anger, old slights, or things that have been done to us. And we practice some forgiveness.

Once we do that, all of that stuff starts to fade away little by little.

Sometimes it takes more than just knowing it and releasing it. Sometimes it takes some deep, deep work to really understand why we feel the way we do, why we're angry all the time, why we feel the way we do about ourselves. And as that work continues, bit by bit, these things clear up.

What I have found is I have not only more energy, but a different kind of energy. An energy that serves me better!

So if you'd like to know more, there's a link underneath this video. Please click on that if you want to download my self-empowered aging paper.

And thank you so much for listening!

Dr Elaine

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